Positive and Negative attitude

Our experiences come from our surroundings, mostly from the people around us by how they treat us and behave toward us. We all have some good experiences and some bad experiences. As a writer, I try to pen down my experiences and share with you all what I learn from them. 

Our experiences are one thing, but our attitude is also something that shapes us as a person. Our attitude is a bunch of principles that differ from person to person, and we all believe that’s how we should behave like with other people. However, unlike your experiences, you can change, or at least try to change your attitude, even at the slightest bit.

Let’s understand this simply. Different people see different things, even while looking at the same thing. For example, if you see a poor labourer working, most people would say, “Study hard, or you will end up like him.” On the other hand, a few very rare people will say, “Study hard, so you can make a better world for him.” Both are advising the same thing, which is to study hard, but they are telling this for two different objectives.

The first sentence’s objective is to study hard or else you would be working just as hard as the labourer later on. In a way, it is correct, you should study hard; but not because you don’t want to be like someone. The “don’t” itself reflects negativity in the sentence, which, according to me, is the wrong approach towards the scenario.

The second sentence’s objective is to study hard so you can make a better world for the labourer. I think these words only come from a person who has a kind heart and is patient enough to modify his approach towards the same scenario. According to me, this is the correct approach because I think that it is not always the labourer’s fault to be working that hard to earn a little money. Who knows what happened in his past? Who knows how hard it might have been for his family to afford the education that he is lacking?

The first approach here is a judgemental approach, indicating prejudice against the labourer. The second sentence is a more balanced approach towards the scenario, indicating and teaching to become better yourself to improve the lives of others. This is exactly why I think that the second sentence is correct to say.

Also, this is related to the title of the paragraph ultimately. Like I said before, different people see the same thing in different ways. Likewise, different people had different approaches to the same scenario—the labourer working hard to earn a little money. The first approach was a negative approach towards the scenario, prohibiting the listener’s kindness in a way and also somewhat misleading. On the other hand, the second approach was a positive approach towards the scenario, enabling the listener to open up and find answers on how to become better to make the lives of others better.

Having a positive or a negative attitude towards something is your choice. Nobody should be judging you based on your choices. But, all I want to say is, if you have an attitude, make it such that it improves the lives of yourself and other people around you. Don’t lead your attitude and ideas from your attitude mislead you in the wrong direction.